Friend or Frenemy?

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Friends are important.
They add color to our life. But somewhere along the way, we meet 1 or two friends who manage to put a strain on the relationship.  Have you encountered any of them?
 
 
  

The Narcissist – Great friends at first because they seem to be completely committed to you. But eentually they raise up their accomplishments over yours, trying to prove that they are better than you and start to resent the successes you have.

The Mooch – We all have some friends who have less than we do, and it can feel good to treat them out for a good drink or two. Though, some friends just don’t manage to reciprocate even when they can. These friends have this habit to borrow things from you and don’t return them.

The Paranoid – People whose lives seem fascinating when you first meet them. They give you all the wildest stories at the same time people who always misunderstand them.  At first, you share their resentment at the world around you but after a while, you wonder why these people have so much criticism on almost everything.

There are a few hints to slowly disengage yourself in a polite manner without hurting their feelings. You can stop answering emails and decline offers to meet up. Eventually, you’ll be forgotten and they’ll just stop calling. You just need to start meeting people who can make you be a better person.

 

Vocabulary Enhancement:

  1. frenemy (友達みたいなようで、本当は敵)- an enemy disguised as a friend; who cares only about themselves.
  2. put a strain on someone or something(負担をかける) – to burden or overload someone or something.
  3. resent(恨む) – feel bitter; dislike or indignant about someone or something
  4. narcissist (ナルシシスト)- someone in love with themselves
  5. mooch (おごられることを求めてる人)- someone who tries to get something for free; ask for and get free; be a parasite
  6. paranoid (大げさに話す人)-  a person who speaks about unfounded opinion or idea; persecution or grandeur
  7. fascinating (面白い)- capable of arousing and holding the attention; capturing interest
  8. disengage (離れること)- become free from entanglement or connection
  9. decline(断る) – not accept; turn down

 

Perspective Exchange:

  1. How many friends do you have?  How long have you been friends?  Why did they become your friends?
  2. Have you experienced any disagreements between your friends? How did you resolve them?
  3. Have you experienced any of the above type of friends? When did you realize that they are not good friends?  How did you disengage yourself?

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What Lies Behind a Smile

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“Smile, and the whole world will smile with you.”
When someone smiles, bad mood goes away, apologies accepted,  boosts confidence, job is well done and has the power of creating physical attraction. Understanding its peculiarities will help us to know the kind of  messages sent.  A smile has the ability to scratch into the subconscious of the person who sees it. It is sufficient to start a mini-emotional positive developments making people see things positively. Boring subjects become interesting.  Smile is contagious and brings people closer.

Men love women who smile.  In fact, men are more attracted to women who smile. On the other hand, women often see a man’s smile as giving support.  However, studies also show that men’s friendly smile is sometimes misinterpreted as flirting or with sexual interest.

Research shows that women smile more than men especially during the late teenage years and young adulthood. It is the time when we send sexual signals. Men are less likely to smile back at another man especially when in competition for a woman’s affection.

Ironically, a smile can also express contempt.  Bullies may wish you to note their joy when you realize their evil intentions. The result is a disconnection of positive feelings and replaced by fear or oppression.

Contributed by: TEACHER REGGIE

 

Vocabulary Enhancement:

  1. boosts – encourages, increase or raise
  2. peculiarities – distinguishing traits; odd or unusual characteristics
  3. scratch into – cut the surface of; wear away the surface of
  4. sufficient – a quantity that can fulfill a need or requirement but without being abundant
  5. contagious – easily or spread as from one person to another
  6. misinterpreted – interpret in the wrong way
  7. adulthood – state (and responsibilities) of a person who has attained maturity
  8. contempt – lack of respect accompanied by a feeling of intense dislike

 

Perspective Exchange:

  1. In your observation,  what effects does a smile have on people?
  2. How do you use smile to your advantage?  What experiences have you had which changed the situation from bad to good by just smiling?
  3. Have you heard of the expression “Smile, and the whole world smiles with you; cry, and you cry alone”?  What do you think is the meaning of this proverb? Have you experienced this?

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